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History & Purpose
Our Mission
LGBT Experiences
Couples Find Enrichment &
   Support for Their Partnerships
   by Participating in Retreats

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Ongoing Support

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Upcoming Retreats



March 2018  &  March 2019
"Heart to Heart - Traditional Program"

Couples at our 'traditional' program are not asked to share with the group.

Click here for info on these retreats


Dates:   To be announced
"Heart to Heart - Going Deeper"

Last offered in November 2016, this infrequent opportunity is designed for couples who are willing to create short presentations and share parts of their personal stories in the safe space of a structured 'talking circle' format.   Note - Group discussion is unique to our Going Deeper program and registration is limited to 7 couples.

What happens at a 'Going Deeper'' retreat?

See Spaces Available

Location -- Koinonia Retreat Center

Are you INTERESTED?  Please contact us:
     Phone: 651-300-4119
h e a r t @ m n . c x

Upcoming Retreats


Dates:  To be announced  
Friday evening to Sunday afternoon
       or     One Saturday
This link will take you to Appleton's
   website for retreats in Wisconsin.
Map & Directions  [2015 location]
Pilgrim Center
Ripon, WI
Sponsored by: Fox Valley
    Unitarian-Universalist Fellowship
    Appleton, WI
Contact Appleton:
    Phone: 920-731-0849
    General: cyndi@fvuuf.org
    Retreat Leaders: h2hfvuuf@gmail.com
Information from previous years:
   2011 2012 2013 2014 pdf.pdf


A Couples' Enrichment Weekend Retreat

What happens at a
"Going Deeper" retreat?


   These retreat weekends are facilitated by an experienced couple and offered as an opportunity for couples who are willing to share parts of their personal stories in a safe and structured 'talking circle' format with up to 7 couples.  Unlike the experience at our Heart to Heart Traditional retreats, participants at a Going Deeper retreat are asked to create short presentations and participate in group discussions. 

   Our working sessions will fill six blocks of time:  (1) Fri Evening;  (2) Sat Morning;  (3) Sat Afternoon;   (4) Sat Evening;  (5) Sun Morning;  (6) Sun Afternoon.

   Although you will spend a weekend at a wooded lakeshore retreat center, sleep two nights in a private bedroom, and receive five meals on Saturday and Sunday, we do not offer weekends filled with "rest and relaxation."  Instead, please plan to experience a lot of effort (by facilitators and participants).  Come prepared for early mornings, long days, and late evenings.  We ask you to work hard and to remember that what you take away from this weekend will depend upon what you put into it.

Going Deeper
via Writing Before The Weekend

   You and your partner will be asked to create two short written presentations [aim at 3- to 6-minutes each] as 'homework'  before arriving at the retreat.  In the weeks ahead of this retreat, facilitators will be available to:
      explain the weekend's flow of topics
   help you select your topic
      answer questions and/or offer guidance


Going Deeper
via Telling Our Stories

   Beginning Friday evening, continuing all day and evening on Saturday, and ending mid-afternoon on Sunday, you will listen as a group to a series of four or five topics.  Each topic will be:
    introduced by the retreat's facilitators &/or a participant couple;  and then
    illustrated by one or two participant couples who present their personal stories.

   Our hope is that these shared experiences will not only open the door for you to look into yourselves and your own relationship, but also introduce you to new friends and a larger community of couples.

ON YOUR OWN - Individual & Couple

After each session's presentations, you will: 

(a) Write two or three questions in your notebook;  then

(b) Spend time alone, indoors or out, reflecting on and writing about the topic presented;   and later 

(c) Meet in a private space with your partner, where the two of you will share your thoughts and feelings in conversation about the topic.


Going Deeper
via Group Discussion

   Following time on your own and before moving to the next topic with its set of presenters' stories, couples will gather in 'talking circles' to reflect on what they wrote and discussed with their partners.  


WHY Talking Circles?

"Circles bring us together to share who we are beyond our appearances.  They're places of listening of hearing what it's like to be someone else.  They're also places for being heard for expressing what's on our minds and hearts and having others receive it deeply.  Telling our stories in the safe space of Circles opens windows on each other's lives, giving us moments when we can witness the path another has walked as well as feel that others appreciate our own path.  The life stories shared are naturally transforming.  Speakers and listeners are touched and changed; so are their relationships. Circles don't "make" this happen; rather they provide a forum imbued with a philosophy and format that reflects it where profound change is highly likely to happen."

From:  Peacemaking Circles From Crime to Community
by:  Kay Pranis, Barry Stuart, & Mark Wedge.


   After each Heart to Heart retreat, participating couples are encouraged to form small groups and continue to meet on a regular basis, and many do.

   See Our Mission for additional information about on-going groups.


Other Websites to Visit   

  • [ unityunitarian.org ] -- Unity Church-Unitarian (our Minnesota "sponsor") 

  • [ UU World ] -- "Unitarian Universalist support for marriage needs to extend beyond the right to marry and the right to divorce"; an article by William Doherty; January 2005 

  • [ Utne Reader pdf.pdf ] -- "Long-Term Love; We Need a Deeper Conversation about Relationships" - an article by Julie Hanus, Utne Reader, March-April 2006  

  • [ TheFirstDance.com ] -- A program designed to help couples survive the trauma that wedding planning can be -- and, in the process stay connected to their families 

  • [ As Seen on Retreat Finder ] -- Spiritual and Healing Retreats and Retreat Centers